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My ex-boyfriend went to jail for making meth in the army barracks, now he is out and wants to get back together...he was my first love, and i still wanna be with him, but i dont want him to do drugs anymore. so im going to try and help him through it. and help him change.
anyone ever had a meth addiction...how do you get rid of it?
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[quote name='OG_OklahomaGirl_OG' post='558462' date='Sep 27 2007, 04:26 PM']My ex-boyfriend went to jail for making meth in the army barracks, now he is out and wants to get back together...he was my first love, and i still wanna be with him, but i dont want him to do drugs anymore. so im going to try and help him through it. and help him change.
anyone ever had a meth addiction...how do you get rid of it?[/quote]


no no no no no no no no no no.


1) Stay away from this person

2) He needs to go to rehab
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[quote name='Ben' post='558463' date='Sep 27 2007, 04:28 PM']no no no no no no no no no no.
1) Stay away from this person

2) He needs to go to rehab[/quote]


x2

We had this talk about who you surround yourself with. Im dissapointed, but I have to get to school, we will talk later.
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[quote name='OG_OklahomaGirl_OG' post='558471' date='Sep 27 2007, 04:36 PM']but i love him.
and im not just saying that as a 17 year old girl thinkin i am in love. i really am
i cant just give up i wanna help him.
i dont wanna see him continue it. and he wont got to rehab.[/quote]


You dont actually want advice, you just want someone to validate your bad decision to stay w/ this person.
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[quote name='rudi32' post='558476' date='Sep 27 2007, 03:40 PM']nice ben

i was thinking the same thing

at 17, u dont know love yet........[/quote]

you cant say i dont know what love is because of my age.
love isnt something you study and learn, its an emotion, it comes with maturity and experience.
and anyhow...i take the word "love" completly seriously. he is the only man in all my relationships i have ever said i love you too. im pretty sure i have a grasp on what love is.
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I think you have to push him to rehab.......he's not going to overcome such an addiction by himself. Humans are weak when it comes to addictions.

And for those who say you can't know what love is at 17, I disagree........but you have to channel that love in such a way that you think about the longterm and sacrafice some of the shortterm. How useful is it going to be to love someone who is strung out, high on meth? That love you feel certainly won't be returned in a way that you deserve or crave. Good luck, PUSH HIM TO REHAB!!! Give him an ultimatum and if he chooses not to go, then maybe he's not as in love with you as you are him. Again, good luck!
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[quote name='IKOTA' post='558482' date='Sep 27 2007, 03:53 PM']I think you have to push him to rehab.......he's not going to overcome such an addiction by himself. Humans are weak when it comes to addictions.

And for those who say you can't know what love is at 17, I disagree........but you have to channel that love in such a way that you think about the longterm and sacrafice some of the shortterm. How useful is it going to be to love someone who is strung out, high on meth? That love you feel certainly won't be returned in a way that you deserve or crave. Good luck, PUSH HIM TO REHAB!!! Give him an ultimatum and if he chooses not to go, then maybe he's not as in love with you as you are him. Again, good luck![/quote]


thank you for that advice.
i'll try that.
he juist turned 23 and my parents wont let us date because they are douchebags, but i will just do it behind their backs.
so maybe by the time he gets out of rehab if he goes i'll be 18.
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[quote name='OG_OklahomaGirl_OG' post='558471' date='Sep 27 2007, 04:36 PM']but i love him.
and im not just saying that as a 17 year old girl thinkin i am in love. i really am.
i cant just give up i wanna help him.
i dont wanna see him continue it. [b]and he wont got to rehab.
[/b][/quote]


If he won't go to rehab to help himself, then he doesn't give two shits about you , WAKE UP! Rehab is the ONLY option. You're a pretty girl, get out there and find someone who actually cares about you. Your parents aren't douchebags, they want whats best for you, your ex doesn't have you or his best interest at heart.


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[quote name='OG_OklahomaGirl_OG' post='558483' date='Sep 27 2007, 06:27 PM']thank you for that advice.
i'll try that.
he juist turned 23 and my parents wont let us date because they are douchebags, but i will just do it behind their backs.
so maybe by the time he gets out of rehab if he goes i'll be 18.[/quote]


Some things your parents allow/disallow you to do, you wont understand their benefit until later in life. He's 23, and you're 17.......that's not something a majority of parents would allow. You have to understand their perspective also and think if you had a 17 year old daughter who was dating a 23 year old (one that is addicted to meth no less)...how would that make you feel as a parent. They may seem like "douches" to you now.....but you have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they are instructing you to do/not do something out of love firstly. Good luck and be strong, for his longterm benefit as much as yours.
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well im going to give him only one chance to go to rehab and to quit and if he continues to do it and sell it then im through its going to hurt.
he was in jail for 10 months and i thought about him everyday. i want him to realize this hurts me, but i cant thow my life away on someone who continues to do something that i feel so stongly about.
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[quote name='IKOTA' post='558490' date='Sep 27 2007, 04:07 PM']Some things your parents allow/disallow you to do, you wont understand their benefit until later in life. He's 23, and you're 17.......that's not something a majority of parents would allow. You have to understand their perspective also and think if you had a 17 year old daughter who was dating a 23 year old (one that is addicted to meth no less)...how would that make you feel as a parent. They may seem like "douches" to you now.....but you have to give them the benefit of the doubt that they are instructing you to do/not do something out of love firstly. Good luck and be strong, for his longterm benefit as much as yours.[/quote]my parents dont know he was in jail, or much less the fact he did meth, they just knew his age.but anyway thank you. i hope it works out..
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I don't know how to be soft about this, so I won't.

Do yourself a favor, and stay away from this guy. Far away.

You have no business being with a guy that age (this really should be directed at him, moreso than you) anyway.

Like it or not, the guy has issues bigger than you both. The fact alone that a grown man chooses a child for a partner is proof enough.

If you have any "love" for this guy, encourage him to seek help, and stay the fuck away from him. The last thing you need is to find yourself knocked up by a meth addict.

I honestly mean no disrespect to you or him with this post OG, but there is no way to sugar coat this. If you allow yourself to fall into this trap, you will spend the rest of your life trying to get out of it.

Peace be with you both. -_-

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OG,

You cant help him, he can only help himself and if he refuses to go to rehab then he doesnt honestly believe there is a problem. You need to try and seperate your feelings for him and be honest with youself about how bad a situation this is. Meth isnt some casual drug, its serious and he is hurting himself while on it, and it will only be a matter of time before he hurts you. You say your parents are being douchebags, but again if you seperate youself from your feelings for him you should see that you parents love you and see this guy for what he is, no good for you.

Like I told you before, you need to surround youself with better people, because the people your spending time with now are not good for you. Even the strongest of people can only hold up for so long without a good support system and you dont have that around these people, your parents are the best you have right now and your letting your emotions get in the way of what is best for you.

You need to understand you can not measure your self worth through anyone else. You need to love you and when you do youll understand this relationship is unhealthy. How much bad stuff are you going to allow in your life before you decide your worth more than this?

Please, I mean it. Dont get into this situation with this guy. You need to worry about taking care of yourself and doing what is best for you.
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23 is to old to be dating high school girls, this guy has issues(other than the whole meth/jail thing).

You need to move on, if your love is truly meant to be, you will cross paths again.

But yeah, this guy sounds like a real piece of work and your parents are right to be worried.

You cant force someone, they have to be willing to kick the habit.
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It's a road leading to nowhere. Get away from that fucking guy. But, it doesn't matter what any of us say, you're going to do what you want to do. I just don't want to be here a few months or years from now saying "Told you so" But that is exactly what's going to happen. Go on and do what you want, OG. It's a mistake but you need to learn that for yourself. I just hope you don't end up on that shit or worse yet, dead, by the time your lesson is learned.
MULLY
He'll only stop if he decides he wants to and seeks help
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Here, look at this

[url="http://www.drugfree.org/Portal/DrugIssue/MethResources/faces/index.html"]http://www.drugfree.org/Portal/DrugIssue/M...aces/index.html[/url]

This is what's going to happen. Don't kid yourself for one second that you are different and can turn this guy around.
MULLY
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[i][color="#FF0000"][b]Dear God,

Please dont give me any daughters...because if I had a 17 year old daughter wanting to
kick it with a 23 year old meth addict, somebody would most certainly die and I would
end up spending a long time in prison.

Oh....and if it is OK with you, a Bengals win on Monday night would really be appreciated.

Until we meet, I promise I will continue to cutback on the fornicating and pornography.

Your humble servant...

~sneaky

Amen.[/b][/color][/i]
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